The friend zone is a long standing challenge for men in the dating world which causes a lot of agonizing over. 

It is important to understand the right steps to take so you don't lead yourself down a path of hoping a girl you like will change her mind on keeping you as just a friend, and spend your time either raising her attraction or finding girls who are more interested in you.

Communicate Clearly

If you don’t want to be friends with a woman and only see her romantically, the most important course of action is to CLEARLY communicate clearly to her that you do not want to be friends. 

Don’t be thinking you can accept it and hang around as friends and show her how great you are and eventually she is going to magically see that you are the one who has been right in front of her eyes this whole time!

That stuff looks great on TV but it almost NEVER happens. Snap back to reality. I wasted too much time when I was young, agonizing, wondering how long it would take for her to see.

I know there are guys that will think I am full of sht, and in their mind they think “nah man, I know her.. She really likes me.. She just needs some time to see”... or “yeah she said she is just focused on work right now but once that is all cleared up we can see”... 

STOP IT. I’ve done that before too many times, and I am sure many others will tell you the same thing: it’s setting yourself up for pain.

If you want the best chance to get out of friends zone, clearly communicate that you only see her in a romantic light. If she doesn’t agree, tell her she knows where to find you and move on.

This will show your strength, and that you’re willing to walk away for what you believe in. No matter what you think, even if she acts mad at you, it will raise her level of respect for you (and ultimately attraction)

This is the same course of action to take if you are dating someone for a bit of time and they try to put you in the friend zone, or if you were rejected by a girl you asked out who said she would rather stay friends.

You saying clearly what you want, and removing yourself if you don’t get it, will have a better affect on her attraction level and she may miss you and come back later taking you up on your interest.

This isn’t being selfish, don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. Concurring to her wishes even though you don’t want that, that is weak and people pleasing behavior And you don’t have to stick around to try and PROVE why she should give a chance. 

You won’t need her validation.  

But What If You Actually Want To Be Friends?

I’ll say this very clearly: There is Nothing Wrong With That.

HOWEVER, you need to understand the consequences if you mentally still want a shot with her romantically. 

You need to actually genuinely just want to be platonic friends, with no hope of ever being a love interest of hers. 

For most guys, that’s pretty hard. Especially if she’s sexy and seems like she has all the qualities you like.  

But If you are mentally prepared for that, then of course that’s your choice to be friends.

Because if you still, deep down, want her romantically, you’re going to absolutely torture yourself when just being her friend.

Think about when she tells you she started seeing someone, how is that going to feel? 

Let me tell you, like trash. First hand experience right here. It’s a good feeling knowing I am never going to feel like that again.

Go On Dates With Other Women

This is an added bonus and is important for two main reasons.

First, you should be doing that anyway because you have an abundance mindset so you won’t even care that this other woman tried to put you in the friend zone.

Second, she may hear about it or even see you out on the town some night with a good looking woman you're dating… maybe even better looking than the one who tried to friend zone you..

Women love a man with options, it increases attraction. 

She may see that, or somebody else that is friends with her sees you on your date and tells the original woman. 

It’s not uncommon for that to make her reconsider or think hmm, he’s out with that good looking woman. Maybe I was wrong.

Conclusion

Remember, none of this guarantees that if you tell her you don’t accept being friends, and walk away, that she is automatically going to chase back after you.

There are no guarantees in anything, but it is the best thing to do if you want a CHANCE at that happening because it shows your strength and confidence in yourself

AND, it’s the best thing to do for valuing yourself and having a strong mindset of abundance, rather than the alternative.. 

Being weak and accepting the friend zone with agonizing hope of maybe she changes her mind while you watch her date others…